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RELATIONSHIP FRIENDSHIP TIPS
By Ashok Koparday
01/11/2012 8:17:59 am
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS
WHO IS REAL FRIEND
If you want to know about friendship
Wow!
you have selected the best practical, original article on the internet to read. Before you begin dating learn socialising. Make more friends. Influence people. Win love and loyalty.
Learn the way children learn socializing.
LEVELS OF FRIENDSHIP
TYPES OF FRIENDS
People have different levels of friendship. All whom you call friends won't fall in to your concept of "ideal" friend. If you have some definition of friends knock it out. It leads to expectations. Acquaintance - to - Friendship is a gradient. Imagine a scale of 1 to 10.
1 is you saw him in the elevator. He is a visitor (less frequent, more frequent, has office in same building, could be client of a client of a client.). Face is recognizable.
Another guy you know works some where in the same building. You like his face or you may notice his bald head. You would probably say "Hi" to each other when you accidentally meet him at Chennai or Shanghai or Manhattan. So on and so forth.
Fake friends are those who have their own explicit or implicit personal reasons to appear friendly to you. They may abuse you outside. In business one appears as friend. That gets their work done quickly. All different kinds of people from 1 to 10 on the scale are friends. Just don't mistake someone to be a 9 number friend when he is mere acquaintance on scale 3.
10 number on the scale is the one who will leave his office work or even his wedding and rush to help you when you direly need her/him. She/He is your great well wisher - God's messiah. Treasure such people. Cultivate them by you becoming number 10 friend for others.
My wife is always irritated. HOW DO I MAKE HER MY FRIEND
Wife Anita may show irritability. That means NOTHING to you. It will not alter the course of action, words you speak and thoughts you think. Her irritated talk is her problem, not her feedback. Disregard. Use the script I gave you on what to and what not to think, say, do. Stick to the project.
MY FATHER ALWAYS TAUNTS. HOW DO I IMPROVE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
Some people can be difficult to cope with because they keep taunting. Disregard their taunts. As long as their taunts disturb you the taunts will continue. Pause PAUSE think THINK what is the appropriate action and DO IT. You may plan the choice of your words, the nature of your actions vis a vis wife or father in advance. FOLLOW YOUR PREDECIDED PLAN/SCRIPT.
Stick to the course of action / project that you have yourself designed.
ACTUAL STORY
OF HOW HE BECAME FRIENDLY AND ALSO BECAME LEADER.A client of mine put TO DO list of his thoughts, attitude, words, actions and also empowering self affirmations on Excel sheet and kept a measurement scale for each on it. He would check daily how well he is proceeding.
You are doing good if you have read this much. This is the method. It starts by knowing the people. The mind classifies them on gradient scale of 1 to 10. Your behavior with them would be then appropriate. There will be neither clinging nor expectation nor will you get frustrated nor be possessive.
LOVE YOURSELF RESPECT YOURSELF
Important: Love your self. If you can note your positive qualities, make a list. Build upon each. It enhances self esteem. Self respect grows. You value yourself. Others have no choice, but to value you.
What you think about yourself matters. (Usually gets decided in early childhood.)
MY FRIEND REMEMBER THIS
You are UNIQUE. No two clouds, no two leaves, no two pebbles are the same.
INBORN INHERITED BY NATURE HERIDITARY QUALITIES IN YOU
Some trait you have are inherent nature (DNA). Example: Born artist. In primary school also their drawing, music or whatever is extraordinary. They are specially gifted.
Some are late bloomers. Bill Gates and others like him.
Along with (Deoxyribo Nucleic Acid) DNA (Inherited or inherent nature.)
LEARNED ACQUIRED QUALITIES IN YOU
Your CIRCUMSTANCES around you influence you. These are learned traits or qualities. If you were born in USA you would not be speaking English. You would be speaking American just as the American's do.
(Where you are born too is predestined. You are born where you get to learn lessons of life.)
TAKE CARE OF YOUR TAWA
THE CHOICE YOU HAVE IS IN THE PRESENT THOUGHTS,ATTITUDE, WORDS, ACTIONS.
WHY DO I HAVE DIFFICULTIES IN RELATIONSHIPS
Situations are kept such that you get to learn what you need to learn. If it is relationship building skills that I want to learn, I will have cartoons around me as family members.As you grow becoming mature means to being bold with elders and assertive in what you choose to say or do.
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Dr. Ashok Koparday is a
Fellow Council of Sex Education and Parenthood International Member of Family Planning Association of India Member of Indian Medical Association Accredited Registered Maharashtra Medical Council of India
Name: Ashok Koparday
Consultant in Sexual Medicine and Marriage Counselor
Medical Director
SAMADHAN INDIA SEXUAL HEALTH CENTER SAMADHAN INDIA Address: 90 Feet Road, Ghatkopar (East),Mumbai 400077 INDIA. Mobile: +91 9867788877
Telephone: 022 25060061
Email: ask [at] mydoctortells [dot] com
google By Ashok Koparday website Home page: http://mydoctortells.com
Consultant in Sexual Medicine and Marriage Counselor
Medical Director
SAMADHAN INDIA SEXUAL HEALTH CENTER SAMADHAN INDIA Address: 90 Feet Road, Ghatkopar (East),Mumbai 400077 INDIA. Mobile: +91 9867788877
Telephone: 022 25060061
Email: ask [at] mydoctortells [dot] com
google By Ashok Koparday website Home page: http://mydoctortells.com
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