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Why does my husband not have sex with me? Wife asks, "My age is 47 years, married for 22 years.. HUSBAND LOST HAVE SEX DRIVE ?

You Asked:

I've been married for all most 22 year.I use to al... I've been married for all most 22 year.I use to alway go to him for sex.One day I said I had enought of this so it got to where he would have sex with me.I know he don't cheat he comes home eat sleep.He never make me feel like a woman sometimes I want to leave him but I don't I 'm getting old 47
What is wrong with this man.He just don't have know sex drive.He don't drink or smoke we go to churk live right Please Help I want to feel love and I need sex in my life I'm not deadyet He make me feel like I'm not pretty and also makes me feel like he don't care if I have a sex life.Other women would have done been gone.I cry this has hurt me so Please help thank you

Reply:
WHY IS HUSBAND SEXUALLY IGNORING YOU?
If you are 47, I presume your husband is not less than 47 years age.
The most likely reason your husband is turning away from sex with you is he has or imagines he has Sexual Dysfunction.

WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS CAUSE
" _ _He make me feel like
I'm not pretty and also makes me feel like
he don't care _ _ _"
You assume the above because your husband appears normal and you have no clue that he has difficulty in doing sexual act himself. He is not cheating and having an affair else where is correct. It is not true that he thinks you are not pretty, or he does not care, or love you anymore.

WHAT WOMEN OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT MEN'S SEXUALITY
1
Men get easily and profoundly disturbed if they believe they are sexually inadequate. Even a doubt of 0.01% in their mind or with a derogatory remark especially by women (even if it is in jest or casual) men get shaken and crestfallen in a way that is mightier than an earth quake. Their confidence and esteem cracks.

2
WEAKNESS OF MALE KIND
In this sense men are overly sensitive, blowing out of proportion their (real or assumed)sexual weakness and they start thinking negatively, "Is life worth living?"

Note: These pictorial adjectives are not exaggerations. They are to give an idea of their personal distress about which women are not aware. These adjectives convey to female kind how badly shaken a man is when he believes (correctly or erroneously) that he has sexual dysfunction. He is so ashamed, "How can I show face to a woman?" Symptoms of depression begin.

3
MACHO IMAGE = SEXUAL PROWESS
Sex and Manliness inherently are closely linked in MALE PSYCHE. Macho is manly and anything not macho is shameful and catastrophic weakness. This is the cognitive distortion man suffers from because macho is manly and anything not macho (is not much O) is shameful.

4
So man comes to believe he may not be able to satisfy female partner and failure to satisfy a female sexually is extremely embarrassing to male kind. This is applicable to all men all over the planet, since history. No wonder most acerbic bad words are related to sexual inadequacy.
Example: 'Impotence' is a bad word.
Medical Science now uses the word 'Erectile Dysfunction' for problems with attaining and sustaining erection.

5 A
THE MALE SEXOMETER - PENIS CENTRIC THINKING
Men measure their sexual adequacy and ability to love and fulfill based on
1] penis size,
2] how stiff and how long stiff the penis can stay erect and
3] early discharge of semen (Premature Ejaculation)

5 B
THE MALE SEXOMETER FURTHER EXPLAINED
The measuring tape/thermometer men use is as written above.
How soon will I discharge? that is Premature Ejaculation,
how hard is their penis on erection and whether it can stay erect for long time. They often believe that they have small size of penis.
Based on their penis size and performance concept,
their own expectation,
comparison with past penis size and function men evaluate themselves and decide if they can do sex to the satisfaction of wife.


WHAT SHOULD I DO SO THAT MY HUSBAND WILL START LOVING ME
You can help your husband by both going to Sex Therapist.
You can reassure husband that you are not thirsty of sex and would not look down upon him if he does not (as he assumes) do well. Forcing him to do sex or trying to do sex worsens the matter.

It is true that your husband is not a cheat, does not drink or smoke, meaning he has no vices. He does not think you are not pretty. He cares for you, likes you. You no more have reason to cry or feel hurt.

This perspective of MEN SEXUAL PROBLEM will help women in dealing with neglect or avoidance of sex by husband.