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The underside of the tip of the penis is shown. The foreskin is pulled back. The glans penis is uncovered. Frenulum is visible. This sometimes gets scratched [abrasions]during vigoros sexual intercourse or masturbation.

Does circumcision affect sexual enjoyment for either partner?
Does circumcision have any health benefits such as preventon of cancers?
Whether you ask or do not ask, know the MALE GEOGRAPHY.
Urinary Meatus


We are asked whether the penis should be circumcised on three occasions.
When the foreskin cannot be brought back fully, the man presumes that to be causing or that it might cause difficulty in sexual intercourse.
In US the Asian Indian parents are asked if they wish to have their new born boy circumcised.
They cannot perhaps make distiction between people of India and neighbouring Pakistan. People from Pakistan, which is predominantly Muslim must have their baby circumcised as a religious injunction. It is better to have it done in hygienic condition by a qualified surgeon rather than get it done in the traditional way=SUNTA.
All male Jews too are circumcised on religious ground.

The third occasion is a general query as when some child has had circumcision done in the traditional way of chopping off the loose foreskin. SUNTA

My Question
Does any one have any idea why people in Muslim - Arabic countries have been doing circumcision of every male child for generations?

My Hypothesis
The scarcity of water in desert conditions impelled the ancient people of the land to proscribe circumcision thus minimizing the use of water, yet accomplishing cleanliness and hygiene in the hot climate. Water would be required if uncircumcised, to clean underneath the foreskin by pulling the extra skin behind and exposing glans and the sulcus of the penis. This requirement is eliminated by circumcision. In circumcised penis, the glans is always exposed, hence there is no collection of spegma.

Despite this the Muslim religion commnands that the penis be always cleaned with water after urination.




Our children, teens, adults the nation itself
will benefit if free sex education video, dvd,
movie, or at least sex pictures are made
available in schools or introduced as part
of curriculum.
Condom manufacturers ought to sponsor
online sex education as is done here.
Research indicates that most people favor comprehensive sex education.

Online sex education should be strongly supported by Universities or Government.

Would you prefer sex education videos or pictures or porn pictures or videos?

Adults too will benefit if officially videos of sex positions, birth control are made available in organizations or libraries.
Oral sex, female sexual preferences, anal sex, clitoris, puberty are matters arousing intense curiosity. Are we to leave them in the hands of quacks or at the mercy of porn industry?


On their long journey at a railway station two ladies, a mother and her teenage daughter, were horrified when a man showed his genitals. When I looked around there was no sign of him. Apparently, that was the end of the story. "He is there," shrieked the mother, obviously scared. Before big commotion the man disappeared. The ladies were frightened, "What if the man follows us?" and were seriously considering seeking help from the police. I assured, that it won't be necessary, they were safe. [The above story is based on actual incidence.] More about each sexual perversion.

The ladies had seen an exhibitionist.
Exhibitionists are harmless. They do not rape or pursue you. However, they can scare women.

Quiz: Is making obscene telephone calls some kind of sexual perversion? Find out.

There are 8 major sexual perversions
1. *Exhibitionism: the recurrent urge or behavior to expose one's genitals to an unsuspecting person.

2. * Fetishism: the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person's body to gain sexual excitement. Partialism refers to fetishes specifically involving nonsexual parts of the body.

3. * Frotteurism: the recurrent urges or behavior of touching or rubbing against a non-consenting person.

4. * Pedophilia: the sexual attraction to prepubescent or peripubescent children.

5. *Sexual Sadism the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting.

6. * Transvestic fetishism: a sexual attraction towards the clothing of the opposite gender.

7. *Voyeurism: the recurrent urge or behavior to observe an unsuspecting person who is naked, disrobing or engaging in sexual activities, or may not be sexual in nature at all.

[Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders]
What is the word meaning of paraphilia?
Paraphilia (in Greek para παρά = besides and -philia φιλία = friendship)—in psychology and sexology, is a term that describes a group of persistent, intense fantasies, urges, or behaviors involving sexual arousal to nonhuman objects, pain or humiliation experienced by oneself or one's partner, or children or other non-consenting individuals.
What is not sexual perversion?
Sexual Practices are not Sexual Perversions if they do not
fulfill the specifications mentioned below.

* the activity must be the sole means of sexual gratification
* for a period of six (6) months, and either
* cause "clinically significant distress or
* impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning" or
* involve a violation of consent to be diagnosed as a paraphilia

Paraphilias include fantasies, behaviors, and/or urges which:

* involve nonhuman sexual objects, such as shoes or undergarments
* require the suffering or humiliation of oneself or partner
* involve children or other non-consenting partners

Other rarer paraphilias: Not otherwise specified (ICD-9-CM equivalent of "Sexual Disorder NOS") and include
.telephone scatalogia (obscene phone calls),
• necrophilia (corpses),
• partialism (exclusive focus on one part of the body),
• zoophilia (animals),
• coprophilia (feces),
• klismaphilia (enemas),
• urophilia (urine),
• emetophilia (vomit).
Psychopharmacological agents
Drugs that drastically lower testosterone temporarily (antiandrogens) have been used for the control of repetitive deviant sexual behaviors and have been prescribed for paraphilia-related disorders as well. Cyproterone acetate inhibits testosterone directly at androgen receptor sites. In its oral form, the usual prescribed dosage range is 50–200 mg per day.
Serotonergics (drugs that boost levels of the brain chemical serotonin) are prescribed for anxious and depressive symptoms. Of the serotonergic agents reported, fluoxetine has received the most attention, although lithium, clomipramine, buspirone, and sertraline are reported as effective in case reports and open clinical trials with outpatients.
Other alternative augmentation strategies that may be effective include adding a low dose of a secondary amine tricyclic antidepressant to the primary serotonergics, but these reports are only anecdotal.

psychoanalysis and
hypnosis are hardly beneficial

Current methods

1.* Aversion imagery involves the pairing of a sexually arousing paraphilic stimulus with an unpleasant image, such as being arrested or having one's name appear in the newspaper.
2. * Desensitization procedures neutralize the anxiety-provoking aspects of nonparaphilic sexual situations and behavior by a process of gradual exposure. For example, a man afraid of having sexual contact with women his own age might be led through a series of relaxation procedures aimed at reducing his anxiety.

3. * Social skills training is used with either of the other approaches and is aimed at improving a person's ability to form interpersonal relationships.
4. * Orgasmic reconditioning may instruct a person to masturbate using his paraphilia fantasy and to switch to a more appropriate fantasy just at the moment of orgasm.

Treatment Results No high degree of success.
Most therapists would say.
The general public would prefer to "lock up" the sex offender than offer treatment.

Paraphilia and paraphilia-related disorders are more prevalent than most clinicians suspect as they are cloaked in shame and guilt.


American Psychiatric Association.
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. 4th ed.
Washington DC

Masters, William H., Virgina E. Johnson, and Robert C. Kolodny. Human Sexuality. Harper Collins Publishers, Inc., 1992.

Abel, Gene G., et al. "Multiple Paraphiliac Diagnoses Among Sex Offenders." Bulletin of the American Academy of Psychiatry and Law (Spring 1988).

American Academy of Clinical Sexologists. 1929 18th St., N.W., Suite 1166, Washington, DC 20009. (202) 462-2122.
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. 1133 15th St., NW Suite 300, Washington, DC 20005-2710.(202) 452-0109.
American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists. P.O. Box 5488, Richmond, VA 23220-0488.
Oxford university press
Source: Thanks to David James Doermann


I have already discussed about oral sex.
This chapter gives definite list of sexual perversions (paraphilia). You will find suggestions to parents so that they can prevent their child from becoming a sexual pervert. You must understand that it is difficult to get data to estimate proportion of paraphilia or benefit from medical treatment. People are secretive. Paraphilia gets reported when caught by law, when instead of treatment they get imprisonment.

In the next chapter we will know more about each sexual perversion.
What are sexual perversions?
Sexual impulse disorders characterized by intensely arousing,
recurrent sexual fantasies, urges and behaviors considered
deviant with respect to cultural norms and that produce
clinically significant distress or impairment in social,
occupational or other important areas of psychosocial

Reference DSM-IV

What is not sexual perversion or paraphilia?
Normal use of sexual fantasy, activity or objects to heighten
sexual excitement are not paraphilia, because it does not cause impairment in the normal social functioning of the individual, nor harassment to others.
Hence use of variations in sexual positions, use of sex toys, sex with multiple partners (consenting) (within the purview of regional law), watching pornography do not constitute paraphilia.
A sexual deviation is not a perversion if the partners are consenting, privacy and regional law are not violated. For it to be called sexual perversion there has to be
  1. inability to resist an impulse for the sexual act,
  2. the requirement of participation by non-consenting or
  3. under-aged individuals,
  4. legal consequences,
  5. resulting sexual dysfunction, and
  6. interference with normal social relationships.

The most common paraphilias are
1. exhibitionism, or exposure of the genitals
2. fetishism, or the use of nonliving objects
3. frotteurism, or touching and rubbing against a non-consenting person
4. pedophilia, or the focus on prepubescent children
5. sexual masochism, or the receiving of humiliation or suffering
6. sexual sadism, or the inflicting of humiliation or suffering
7. transvestic fetishism, or cross-dressing
8. voyeurism, or watching others engage in undressing or sexual activity

What parents need to know regarding child's sexual behavior?

The following are situations or causes that might lead someone to become a paraphiliac:

1) parents who humiliate and punish a small boy for strutting around with an erect penis
2) a young boy who is sexually abused
3) an individual who is dressed in a woman's clothes as a form of parental punishment
4) fear of sexual performance or intimacy
5) inadequate counseling
6) excessive alcohol intake
7) physiological problems
8) sociocultural factors
9) psycho-sexual trauma

What causes sexual perversion?
Causes of Paraphilia are not known. (Doctors' call this as 'idiopathic').

More about paraphiliacs:

Generally paraphiliacs have more than one perversions. Their paraphilia is consistent and remains the same lifelong. A paraphilia can, and often does, become highly idiosyncratic and ritualized. Mostly men have paraphilia compared to women.

Associated conditions with paraphilia:

Erectile dysfunction and an inability to ejaculate may be common in attempts at sexual activity without the paraphiliac theme, hence the need becomes compulsive.
Paraphiliacs are likely to have guilt, depression, shame, isolation, and impairment in the capacity for normal social and sexual relationships.


Humorous Definitions
By Dr. Ashok Koparday
Why is it said Medical Rounds?
Why is it said Medical Practice?
Why is s/he going to a doctor called Patient?

Medical Rounds
Why do they call medical rounds?
Medical Rounds is the official term used when doctors go round and round, but cannot straight away figure out what is wrong and what needs to be done.
The customer is always patient during, before and after the rounds.

Medical Practice
Why do they call medical practice?
Medical Practice is what they do with you.
Medical Practice is a term officially permitted because though the people complain [about their pains] they still allow the doctors to practice.

Why is it the person going to doctor called a patient, and not customer or client or sick person?
The person undergoing treatment requires paramount patience. Neither the doctor nor the sufferer know exactly when the suffering will end. Hence by definition the sufferer is called patient.

A person who is suffering may actually feel like yelling or kicking the doctor, but even a die hard criminal or agnostic displays reverence and courtesy.

Some people who do not believe in God, despite their own suffering say, "Doctor is my savior, my God" even when actually the doctor says, "Now everything is in the hands of God!" Such people with unusual patience qualify to be called as patients.
Why the patients are increasing in number?
Ecological Genetic Theory EGT

Patience is a rapidly disappearing human trait. Most people do not have patience. To maintain ecological balance and preserve the genetic trait of patience, patients are increasing in number all over the world.

Synonyms of "sufferer"

4 results
Roget's New Millennium™ Thesaurus
  1. casualty
  2. patient
  3. prey
  4. victim

Dis ease. Dis is Disturbed. Disturbed Ease is Disease.


The high sounding term used by doctors for your dis ease.
Apparently they are trained to do so for 5 years. Diagnosis helps Doctors to make a living out of your Dis ease. Diagnosis is a sophisticated system. There are huge books showing ugliest pictures of body's insides. There are scams too. Lately to help diagnosis doctors have CT scam, MRI scam and the like. [the character m is typed as 'n' in the Medical Text Books].
Common cold is rhinitis. An itch is an Allergy. Dis Ease caused by high temperature is Fever
Etymology of Fever: short form of Fee giver



Sick Leave Note actually submitted by parents to school.
"Please excuse Gloria. She has been sick and under the doctor."
What are Male Contraceptive Pills used for?.

Psychiatry Patient

Dr. J goes to the psychiatry ward of our hostpital for his medical rounds.
[Why do they call medical rounds?
Why do they call medical practice?
Find in the definitions below]
He sees Jill and asks her, "Jill, how much is three times three?" Jill responds "59."
He goes over to Tom and asks, "Tom, how much is three times three?" Tom responds, "Wednesday."
He finally goes over to James and asks, "James, how much is three times three?" "NINE" replies James.
"That's right how did you come to that answer?" "It was easy...I just subtracted 59 from Wednesday!"

For cough
You have a cough? Go home tonight, eat a whole box of Ex-Lax, tomorrow you'll be afraid to cough.
Pearl Williams

Orthopedic Surgeon
Q What is the difference between God and an orthopedic surgeon

A God dosn't think he is an orthopedic surgeon.

Double Blind Trial
When two orthopedic surgeons read an ECG [EKG]?

Double Blind (Placebo Controlled) Trial tells about effectivity and adverse effects of a chemical, before it is marketed as a medicine.

Common sense for Fracture
Patient: Doctor, Doctor, I broke my arm in two places!

Doctor: Stay away from those places!

Male Birth Control Pill
Did you hear about the latest birth control pill for men?

You take it the day after. It changes your blood type.

(Times of India has featured an article in October 2007, describing the statistics of increase in Paternity test DNA Test requested for in the Forensic Science Laborator at Kalina, Mumbai, India. - Note by Dr. Ashok Koparday)

Time Release Pills
After receiving his medication from the pharmacist, the customer asks, "are these time release pills?" The pharmacist replies, "Yes. They begin to work after your check clears."

Did you hear about the baby born in the high tech delivery room?

It was cordless!

Parents note about Sick Leave to School

(These are notes that school secretaries have actually received.
Some of these were in an article in the Detroit News back in the 1970s.)

"Please excuse John for being absent Jan. 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, and 33."

"Mary could not go to school because she was bothered by very close veins."

"Ralph was absent yesterday because of a sour throat."

"Please excuse Joey Friday. He had loose vowels."

"Please excuse Joyce from jim today."

"Please excuse Roland from P.E. for a few days. He fell out of a tree and misplaced his hip."

"Karl was hit yesterday playing football. He was hurt in the growing part."

"John was absent yesterday because he had a stomach."

"Please excuse Gloria. She has been sick and under the doctor."

"My son will have to get out of school as soon as I call the orthodontist, one of his wrie's is brusted and sticking in his Gum's."

"Please excuse Sarah from being absent yesterday. She was sick and I had her shot."

"My son is under the doctors care and should not take P.E. Please execute him."

"My daughter Jenni was absent this morning because she missed her bust."

"Please excuse Johnny for being. It was his father's fault."

Doctor's visit
Late one night the doctor's wife was home alone, after her husband had been called to the hospital for an emergency. The doorbell rings, and she answers.

"Is the doctor at home?" asks the man at the door, in a very hoarse and quiet voice due to his aching throat.

"No, c'mon in!" whispers the doctor's wife in return.

1998 Last Updated
Lewis Wasserman /
Copyright ©1995, All rights reserved.
rest of it.


You worry endlessly about your child's habits. Has s/he got spoiled due to bad company? Those who are uncouth, who use vulgar words, watch blue films are the spoiled kids. The best protection or prevention from misinformation and misadventure is to talk to children about sex or arrange to give them correct scientific information. Wrong information about sex sticks on the wet cement of the growing mind and gets etched there to trouble as myths when they grow up.

Do remember that your child is growing and is curious about private parts. Child gifted with curiosity is going to explore his sexual organs and want to know about about the other gender's sex organs, what sex means, what married people do. Give your child proper Sex Education or arrange for it through school or Rotary/Lions Club for the same.

Why to give Sex Education?

Sex education,
Birth Control,
Prevention of Sexually Transmitted Infection,
Social Norms and
Responsible Behavior
needs to be taught when you get the first opportunity or the slightest hint that your child is curious or has begun experimenting with genitals. What sexual parts look like, their names, functions, what are the social norms have to be told to a child, besides answering any other questions that a child may ask. If there is something that is too embarrassing about which you do not have an answer you may tell the child that you both will ask father or a doctor.
I was told that in Australia, some schools, if not all, educate children by showing educational movies that are absolutely explicit and include sexual intercourse as well as orgasms simulated by actors. Birth control methods, protection from Sexually Transmitted infections are also discussed. Sex Education is so thoroughly taught that parents need not talk separately about sex. The craze to walk to the dust bin and eat out of it no more exists. That is, the craze for Pornography, raving for Sex with Commercial Sex Workers or Others, diminishes significantly. The promiscuous sexual behavior has been found to reduce remarkably where ever sex education is provided according to several studies conducted for this purpose.

If you are an educator, teacher, then arrange for sex education talks or as a parent request the school/college to do so. You can organize such talks through your clubs, the Rotary, the Lions club. You can get the contact details of a sex counselor from directory or by contacting the editorial staff of a newspaper or magazine in which a doctor answers to questions posted to him or has his column or articles featured. Make sure that the doctor is scientifically correct and not a sham. In India almost every city has Family Planning Association of India's office. This is non governmental organization providing services and education in reproductive health.

Students are taught history, geography in great details for several years, but they are not taught the geography of their private parts even for one hour from authentic source. Sex remains mystery. This breeds misconceptions and gives rise to unrealistic expectations and marred sexual enjoyment. Parents teach about eating habits, brushing teeth, tying a tie and several things that we do not realize we would have known if someone would not have taught us. Example: Wearing a sari has to be taught, so also driving, cooking.

Responsible Sexual Behavior

Sex Education

You may request for sex education materials. You may take a print out of the e book or copy on CD or show on your PC to your child. Having more than one child (friends, for example) when watching is more beneficial and can be done in several sittings. It is better that the parent first reads it and approves.

When to give Sex Education?
It is prudent to give correct sex education at the earliest opportunity.


Mother's complaint that her 11 year old son, (VII standard), teases other children with his private parts.

How do I talk to my son?.

My daughter La who is 1 year younger than my son Do (12 years) told me that Do once showed his private parts. I called on his friend and he confided that Do, my son, has been showing his private parts. The friend was scared. Another friend amongst his group said they played or something. I have noticed that he would purposely brush his private parts against his sister or cousin and vex them. I have explained him and told him so many times not to do so, but he does not listen. I am tense. How to cure this disorder? Please suggest some treatment.

He has discovered one method to tease others as you described. This is not a sex disorder nor will it give rise to sex disorder of any sort in future. This is prank he is playing, which is just the way someone else would do by pulling other people's hair.
You have to stop him as you would about any other mischief.
What not to do?
We however do not recommend punishment that strongly affects him, lest he may associated sexual organs with pain or sexual act with guilt. Example: Do not scold or beat him in front of relatives or peers where he is likely to feel hurt and deeply embarrassed.
What to do?
Be firm in asserting that he stop the behavior. Punish him the way you punish him for not studying.
Do not think too much about it. If the child knows that this irritates mother, it becomes a tool to further irritate you and make you feel helpless.
Even if you leave him his prank will change to some other prank.
You may request your close relative or friend with whom he gets on well to reprimand him. If the school teacher or neighbor's mother yells at him then too he is likely to chill and stop that mischief.
You may enroll him in activity of his interest. Extracurricular activities, hobbies, like singing, elocution, drawing and painting, should be encouraged.

Do remember that your child is growing and is curious about private parts. It is prudent to give correct sex education at the earliest opportunity. We will be providing sex education materials
to those who request for it. You may take a print out of the e book or copy on CD or show on your PC to your child. Having more than one child (friends, for example) when watching is more beneficial


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How to have an attractive personality? When girls spend long hours in front of mirror instead of dolls, they are blossoming. When boys ask for tonics to build biceps the growth spurt has begun? How to get rid of pimples? Here is a secret [many do not know it].

There is nothing that can replace SELF ESTEEM. If you do not carry yourself with dignity you will be a poor 'me'. You want that others should through glances at you.
Do not believe that you do not have the stuff that others have to be attractive. In unspoken gestures this attitude conveys beggarly messages like, "Will you please be my friend?" You definitely will have friends and the best ones. Do not look out, look within. Talk to yourself. This is called self affirmation. "I am charming." "I am the most attractive person in this place." "I love myself." Repeat any or all of these lines as many times as you can. They appear to be false and unconvincing. Does not matter. Make a beginning. Your persona will change. You will notice the difference.
Know that you do not have to always follow what other friends or majority say.
Put your foot down and dare to be different. You may actually be right and no one except you dared to say what was right. Others begin recognizing your leadership qualities. This draws respect. When in doubt close your eyes for a moment and ask yourself what is the APPROPRIATE thing that must be done. Having heard your voice dare to speak out firmly. Many habits, practices are foolish and go in the name of style or trend. You become different by showing that you respect your own word, no matter what others say. Take these three golden tips.



Why SeX education?

If deprived of correct knowledge the curiosity of intelligent teenagers [human beings as they are] wanders and gathers contaminated, incorrect knowledge, which is the single most common cause of sexual ill health, including HIV and AIDS.

I have taken programs for teenagers in educational institutes as an EDUCATOR to knock out sexual myths [old and new] and unravel sex mysteries by providing scientific facts about sexual health so that untold misery that people suffer due to widely prevalent sex related misconceptions could be prevented and people experience sexual well being.

An Educator in Sexual Health and Well being informs about

What does Safe Sex mean?

SAFE SEX, simply said, [in the limited sense that is popular today]is knowledge about how to prevent HIV/AIDS and unwanted pregnancy.

Sex Education, Promiscuity, Morality

An Educator in Sexual Health and Well being is not a social reformer or religious pontiff to tell the youngsters what they SHOULD do or shouldn't do, because the social and moral norms are going to be decided collectively by their generation, not by the Educator. I was providing facts about Sexual Health, the deprivation of which is causing mammoth misery. Teaching Responsible Sexual Behavior has been scientifically proven to be non provocative, thus not inducing promiscuous behavior and accompanying hazards. On the contrary licentious behavior is

where teenagers are taught Responsible Sexual Behavior. Teenagers are intelligent people. If schools teach subjects like geography and history, why keep the knowledge of their own body's geography and history a mystery? Not just teenagers, but all human beings who are supposed to have brain in their skulls, NEED to know at least basic facts about Human Sexuality, [which is different from Animal Sex] to ensure Sexual Health and Well Being.

Sex Educators empower human beings to make intelligent choices for their Sexual Well being. Sex Educator's job is not of imposition saying, "Do this, do not do this" or "This is right and this is wrong," but is to provide facts so that they are well equipped to take proper decisions. Deprivation of correct scientific knowledge in human sexuality is causing mammoth suffering in teenagers, the young, the grown ups and the grown outs alike.


Study done on the depiction of audio visual contents of pornography web sites on the Internet in 2007 possibly reflect the preferences of sexual play applicable to millions who search in google, yahoo, msn, altavista. A sample is presented here.


The ratio of cunnilingus : fellatio is 150:850.


A point to note is that the ratio of depiction of
fellatio compared to all types of sex, which is inclusive
of the traditional missionary position of sexual intercourse is 750:250.
The other types of sex play that are depicted are not permissible, this being a family-site. If you are compelled by inquisitiveness, do not ask me, you are intelligent enough to search. You can request by clicking here to get a key for adult content if the doctor feels in good faith that it would have therapeutic benefit for you.

This study is not claimed to be conclusive but suggests that fine tuned research tools can be used to probe into this aspect, presuming that the open market standard demand and supply operates in the pornography industry, which is financially valued to be worth several billions of dollars.


50 plus age group people may be surprised to know that oral sex, called as blow job is common among teenagers. Compared to Cunnilingus, Fellatio is more prevalent in all age groups. It would have been considered legally wrong, morally sinful, or disgusting 50 years ago. However, when the partners are mutually consenting oral sex is used for sexual pleasure.

Gay oral sex,
lesbian oral sex
are not the only ones.

Healthy men and women, straights as they are called, in hetrosexual relationship practice oral sex. It can be called as outer course in comparison to inter course.

Study of porn sites on the internet
reveals display of
fellatio : cunnilingus to be in the approximate ratio of
850 : 150.
fellatio : all forms of sex, including traditional penovaginal sex in the approximate ratio of
750 : 250

Surprisingly, fellatio is more often depicted than 'normal'intercourse.

Pornography industry has to be in tandem with the prevalent tastes and nuances of their market. Hence, comparative study of sexual variations as depicted on porn sites is a matter that can be studied by academicians using tested research tools.

Facesitting is a form of oral sex in which the receiver sits on the giver's face and pushes into it with his or her genitals.

Oral sex can be performed by both partners at the same time in the so-called "sixty-nine" position.

Fellatio is called in erotic lingo as Blowjob or Cumshots or Sucking or Deep throat.

Cunnilingus is also sometimes referred to as "muff diving," "eating out," or "poon-job," a slang term and a cunnilingus variant of "blow job" (see the section of Fellatio above), where "poon" is short for poontang or punani.

Giving head - A common slang term for giving oral sex to either a man or woman is "giving head," from the term "head job" (in contrast to "hand job," manual stimulation). A play on the slang term "head" resulted in the slang term "brains," or "brain salad surgery," "domes," or "getting domes."

In lesbian culture several common slang terms used are "carpet munching," "giving lip," "lip service," or "tipping the velvet" (a faux-"Victorian" expression invented by novelist Sarah Waters).

Additional slang terms for oral sex include "going down on" (female and male), "licking out" (female), "blow job" (male), "dome" (female and male), "sucking off" (male), "rolling cigars" (male recipient), "lolly-gagging" (gay male-on-male), and "gaining knowledge" (male recipient).

For the erotic lingo


Oral Genital Sex.
A survey reports that oral sex is practiced by more than 50% of teenagers as found in a survey of over 12,000 people of different age groups. This was published in TIME magazine's September 26, 2005 issue. What is the medical aspect of fellatio and cunnilingus? Its pros and cons.

Yes, a report issued in September 2005 by the National Center for Health Statistics was the basis of an article in the September 26, 2005 issue of TIME magazine. The report comes from the results of a computer-administered survey of over 12,000 Americans between the ages of 15 and 44, and states that over half the teenagers questioned have had oral sex. This was the first comprehensive study of its kind to examine the matter.***

When a female uses her mouth to sexually stimulate male genitals during sex play it is called fellatio. Popularly it is called 'blowjob' in English.
When a male uses his mouth to sexually stimulate external female genitals during sex play it is called cunnilingus. Popularly this is called 'licking out' in English.
Simply said, orally stimulating genitals is oral sex. It is called 'going down' whether it is fellatio or cunnilingus in English slang.
Orally stimulating anus for sexual pleasure is 'analingus'.

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If you are reading this on the internet, irrespective of which adult content filter is used, you probably have already seen the words above by typing the four letter word 'porn' in google, yahoo, msn and clicking on search.

After knowing the medical terms let me reply to your first question.

What are the pros:
no risk of pregnancy.
part of foreplay or after play.
richer experience of sexual joy.
In women who are otherwise an orgasmic, cunnilingus could be part of treatment, if both the partners are willing.
You say: It is unnatural? Mouth was not meant for using on the genitals.
Reply: Penis inserted in vagina is natural. Mouth to mouth kissing should also be considered unnatural.
You say: In kissing both partners enjoy. It is not unhygienic.
Reply: All people do not necessarily like mouth to mouth kissing, just as all people to not have to like hamburgers, samosas, or dosas. In cinema kissing had to be extensively used because nothing further was permissible.

Hygiene: There are more bacteria in your mouth than there are people in this world.

Hygiene: Compare to Mouth to Mouth Kissing, Oral Genital Kissing is more hygienic if you consider the number of bacteria in mouth.
It is agreed that oral sex, just as conventional penovaginal sex, is to be done between mutually consenting partners who maintain general hygiene, specially, cleansing mouth, brushing your teeth, bathing. No sweat odors, no bad tastes.


In both fellatio and cunnilingus it is important to note that the person who is orally stimulating does not get direct pleasure, but indirect pleasure of satisfying the partner.
Sexually transmitted infections (including HIV)
The risk of contracting chlamydia and HPV through oral sex is rare, although possible, if the fluids come in contact with open skin or mucosa. The risk is definitely far lower than that associated with vaginal or anal sex.


HPV and oral cancer link***
In 2005, a research study at the College of Malmö in Sweden suggested that performing unprotected oral sex on a person infected with HPV might increase the risk of oral cancer . The study found that 36 percent of the cancer patients had HPV compared to only 1 percent of the healthy control group.
Another recent study suggests a correlation between oral sex and head and neck cancer. It is believed that this is due to the transmission of human papillomavirus (HPV), a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers, and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies.
The New England Journal of Medicine study concluded that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity and those with more than five oral-sex partners had a 250% increased risk.

If you ask about methods of prevention for the above when a partner's status of STI is unknown is to use condoms (flavored condoms are available)or use of dental dams in fellatio.

Prevalence, sociocultural aspects will be dealt in another post.

*** Source:


"What is oral sex?" she asked her friend. His throat wobbled in a swallowing motion due to extreme embarrassment.
He replied, "When a girl sucks a guy's private parts it is called oral sex."
"Have you gone crazy? Why would any girl do that?" she retorted.

Not satisfied she asked her girl friend. She replied, "Kissing is oral sex," and wondered how this girl did not know about as simple a thing as smooching.

This is a dialogue happening between kids of the same class. Age 12 years. At 21 years age or even grown up adults, men as well as women, have problem with the word 'oral sex'. Anyway, what is oral sex?
Here is the beginning of my post.

Some people do call smooching as oral sex. Like, "Our friendship is limited to touching and oral sex,[meaning kissing] I have to confirm what they mean.
For 98% of people 'oral sex' means
female sexually stimulating genitals of a males, as well as the counterpart
male sexually stimulating female genitals. In gay and lesbian community it would involve each others genitals.

We shall see medical aspect of it, and then socio cultural aspect too. You may see a diagram licensed under Commons here. It was created by Francesco Hayez on May 03, 2006
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Knowing that the eve teasing that gets reported is the tip of the ice berg you would like to know about the full

For eve teasing
On the internet
Follow the netiquettes, even if you feel super confident as youth usually does.

Off the net
If eve teasing is temporary or isolated event, as when she is passing through a street where she is unlikely to tread again, or at a picnic spot, it is best overlooked.
However, if it is persistent, as while going to college, office, playground, in school, neighborhood how will you handle it?


Shout loudly or talk back loudly so that ten more people can hear.
This is VERY USEFUL and the most practical of all the methods.


eve teasing to as many people as possible,
your family members write a note to your school or college authorities, not that they will help you but as evidence it later becomes useful and you are not victimized. Let all your friends know it and relatives with whom you interact.

Public places

If you are chased: You have to go towards railway station or other public places if the miscreant is following you and you do not want him to know where you stay. These places are safe.

Using the M~F principle
Boys intuitively are ready to help female species as though they were born for it. This is the anthropological evolutionary way of males to impress females. I will say that in simpler terms. Movies from all parts of the world, all languages echo this mission of male as the rescuer. You are dud if you have not realized this weakness of men. Moreover, believe me; men consider it is an honor if you ask for help.

Putting this M-F principle into practice means you or someone on your behalf has to ask local hooligans or goonda type boys for help. These boys perhaps were with you in the same school but dropped out of school and are no better than the predator.


Lodging FIR [= making Police Complaint] a report in the police station is considered the legal method.

At least find some friend who knows some one in the police department. If not officially at least unofficially they better know so that you have an emergency telephone number to fall back upon in worse situations.

Women's Organizations

There are organizations who are wholly dedicated for issues faced by women. They have a field force, intimate knowledge about such matters, and contacts with authorities.
Example the Stree Mukti Sanghatana, whose Head Office is based in Mumbai.

News Media
It is stupid to turn to them. It is double edged weapon. They are concerned with the only one thing, that is, their sell. So they might draw unwanted publicity by making it a news item under the guise of helping or reporting.

Ideally a girl should have learned three things:
Martial Arts
Economics - Handling money
Psychology - Handling husband and in-laws.
You may be highly qualified but only that part of your education, which enables you to read this post, is what matters.


In common parlance we use the word eve teasing to any nuisance caused to a female by a male usually by ogling, laughing, taunting, following, touching. Boys/men/guys often do not know how nerve shattering this experience can be for a girl who may be your sister, friend or relative. What can you do if you are parent, friend, or the victimized girl?

eve teasing on the internet
Eve teasing can be horrendous experience when it happens through the internet.
You may not know but eve teasing is not uncommon in Orkut. In the last quarter of 2006 three different incidents were reported at one month interval in the Times of India. In all these incidences police personnel had to step in.

China has banned orkut for sane reasons.
Remember that eve teasing that gets reported is the tip of the ice berg.

Follow the netiquettes, even if you feel super confident as youth usually does.

Off the net
If eve teasing is temporary or isolated event, as when she is passing through a street where she is unlikely to tread again, or at a picnic spot, it is best overlooked.
However, if it is persistent, as while going to college, office, playground, in school, neighborhood how will you handle it?

See how-to-fight-eve-teasing-2 eve teasing2 FIGHTING KIT.

Before that let us see what eve teasing does to the victim

Eve teasing causes disturbance that is different in different situations and in different girls. The harassment can range from irritation to haunting terror


It can affect social life. A girl's attitude can take a big turn and the jubilant girl can become reserved or may hate the male kind. It may in worst cases cause defamation in her social circle.

Academic life, extracurricular, career or office life is disturbed

Husband ~ Wife bonding can be impaired to the extent that they have to seek counseling.
Though rare this can emerge as the culprit in counseling session.

Who does it
and to whom?

Those who have undergone eve teasing by a मवाली, दादा mawali, dada, and truant know how Though commonly pretty girls are a victim; the eve teasing can happen with your sister, daughter, and friend.

What not to do

If the family members of the victim are not supportive and dismiss the girl's complaint by saying, "You must have done something to seduce him," she has lost an important tool from her FIGHTING KIT.
Do not implicate her?
True mini dresses are fashionable but in every age for that age a particular dress code was considered vulgar. What is vulgar could be trendy for your kid.

Do not say, "Forget it."
लक्ष देउ नको
Laksha deu nako

Do not hide it

Do not go in a clave out of fear

Consider this to be a learning experience in life.

Wisdom lies in turning problem into your teacher.


Click on this animated picture
The adored and most photographed black women are
editor-in-charge of 'PRIDE', the life style magazine for British Black Community says.

she is flooded by letters from female readers whenever
a typical Black African is shown on the cover of the magazine 'PRIDE'. "It's cultural racism or shade-ism as I call it.1"

If a girl/boy is feeling s/he is looked down upon or is at a disadvantage because the complexion is not white, how do you manage this?
Facing this situation of the teenager horrifies parents and sends shivers down the spine of concerned responsible teachers.

1. There is no substitute for self respect .
The problem is more with the self esteem of the person than with the color of the skin. Rather than dwelling into psychotherapy I wish to remind my friends that the skin color is Gifted by God who is the same Intelligence, which has given liver and pancreas and keeps our heart beating non stop till the last breath.

Say these over and over again to yourself to improve your self confidence. You will begin radiating joy and become attractive.
1. I accept myself exactly the way I am.
2. I respect myself.
3. I love myself.
Dr. Ashok Koparday

Say hundreds of times daily, *"I accept myself exactly the way I am." How dare you criticize the work of Supreme under whose command you see the Sun rising, the planets spin, the weather changes and who brings rain from the emptiness of the sky?
*Louis Hay in her book, "YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE."

2. Use PROTECTIVE HERBAL OINTMENT that your grandma recommended.
Some are available for sale in shop outlets that strictly sell Ayurvedic or Herbal products.

3. REMEMBER that being BETTER human being is far superior to appearing BRIGHT or WHITE. All that is white is not right nor might.
If you are under peer pressure you are being given practical training in life to overcome it with confidence, with wit, with caliber,
rather than succumbing to their treachery.

Can you judge who is fair and who is foul?



Melissa Barnet is daughter of a Nigerian nurse.
Melisa, who is now in late 20s reminisces how she felt being black. We quote her verbatim:
"Throughout my childhood it just wasn't cool to be African or dark skinned, and every day at my all-girls secondary school I was reminded of this cruel racial hierarchy."

She recalls, "Being a lighter-skinned Jamaican made you superior to anyone darker or African." Melissa would hate herself for being black.
She would write notes like: "Why are you so ugly?" Statements such as "he's monkey", "far too black" and "ugly" were commonplace while speaking about the dark boys or girls.
Melissa began using bleaching creams for she felt miserable with her black complexion.

The penchant for looking fair in ingrained amongst us. How fair is the girl?
How fair is the boy? These must be answered before horoscopes are matched for marriage alliance.

Ms. Anderson (name changed) has this story to tell.
"It worked quite well to start with, but as I carried on using it, my skin became thin and dehydrated. If I moved my mouth, my whole skin moved, too. My forehead looked like crinkled up piece of paper it was so cracked." Ms. Anderson then started having ugly blotches that developed into boils and ulcers on her face. "I was a complete mess."
Ms. Anderson had been using 'Maxi White', which guaranteed results almost overnight. Stand at the chemist shop and you are sure to find various FAIRNESS CREAMS.
The advertisements and the brand name are targeted at black and Asian women and men.

Vicco Turmeric Vanishing Cream is unlike these creams.
It contains amongst other ingredients 'turmeric' and looks yellow not white as against all other fairness creams. The advertisement recommends using it as a face cream the way traditionally Indian Asians have been using but also as an antiseptic cream or after shave cream.

Look at the list of ingredients written in fine print which is difficult to read for a person of normal eyesight unless he takes a magnifying glass.
HYDROQUINONE is the substance, which we buy to damage our skin in the hope of getting brighter. Some powerful steroids are also harmful when used in FAIRNESS CREAM.
The peer and cultural pressure undoubtedly has a powerful influence in instilling an inferiority feeling for those with dark skin
and impel them to buy something that could be damaging. Not all FAIRNESS CREAMS are harmful.
HYDROQUINONE strips off the darker outer layer of skin, which chemically causes the skin to look 'brighter'.
But brighter (skin) is not necessarily better.
HYDROQUINONE by chaffing off the outer protective layer of skin makes you vulnerable to infection and the harmful Sun rays.
Skin is one of the biggest organs of the human body that protects you by careful packing.
When this natural defence is lowered you are at a risk of developing skin cancer.
HYDORQUINONE, the chemical used in certain industrial processes, can cause fatal liver and kidney damage if they enter the blood stream.
Other side effects are:
• Headaches
• Nausea
• Convulsions
• and
• Permanent scarring
IT IS ILLEGAL TO USE HYDROQUINONE and HARMFUL STEROIDS IN COSMETICS. 'MAXI WHITE' is banned. But you will find names like "Sure White", "Fair and White" and other such suggestive names at your local chemist shop.
Sherry Dixon is flooded by letters from female readers whenever
a typical Black African is shown on the cover of the magazine 'PRIDE'. "It's cultural racism or shade-ism as I call it," says Sherry Dixon,
editor-in-charge of 'PRIDE', the life style magazine for British Black Community.
The adored and most photographed black women are
They have Westernised or European features and hardly provide am inspirational role model.



In one of the first studies (so late)Maeve Cosgrove and team reported that people who eat food rich in Vitamin C had fewer wrinkles. My mother has been saying the same thing.

This is the first research where the impact of nutrients from foods rather than supplements applied on skin for aging were studied.
Cosgrove, M.C. American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, October 2007; vol 86: pp 1225-1231. Maeve C. Cosgrove, nutritional epidemiologist, corporate research, Unilever Colworth Park, Bedford, England. Susan Weinkle, MD, visiting clinical professor of dermatology, University of South Florida, Miami; spokeswoman, American Academy of Dermatology.
Maeve C. Cosgrove and colleagues write in the October issue of The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition.

If they tell you to eat this
what will you eat?

She will tell you.
“Our findings add evidence to a predominately supplement and topical application-based hypothesis that what we eat affects our skin-aging appearance,” nutritional epidemiologist Maeve C. Cosgrove and colleagues write in the October issue of The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition.
Vitamin C has a role in cancer prevention
with high intake conferring approximately a twofold protective effect compared with low intake. Hence increased consumption of fruits and vegetables in general should be encouraged.- study author G. Block

Consumption of fruit and vegetables, which are rich in antioxidant vitamins, has been associated with a reduced rate of mortality from coronary heart disease (CHD)
Knekt P, Reunanen A, Järvinen R, Seppänen R, Heliövaara M, Aromaa A. Antioxidant vitamin intake and coronary mortality in a longitudinal population study. Am J Epidemiol 1994;139:1180–9
Take home message
Eat foods containing more of
2-oxo-L-threo-hexono-1,4- lactone-2,3-enediol
(R)-3,4-dihydroxy-5-((S)- 1,2-dihydroxyethyl)furan-2(5H)-one
Ascorbic acid
Vitamin C.


Does hysterectomy affect Sex life?
Hysterectomy, removal of uterus (womb), diminishes sex drive and ability to orgasm if nerves to the vagina have got removed. It is preferable to retain ovaries and the cervix. It is important to ask your doctor if genital nerves will be kept intact for they give the ooohh! vaginal sensation.

Let us begin at the beginning.
What is hysterectomy?
Hysterectomy is an operation to remove a woman's uterus (womb).

Why is hysterectomy done?
It is a part of surgical treatment of fibroids, endometriosis or cancer.

Sex after Hysterectomy

Sex Drive and Orgasm are likely to be impaired after hysterectomy
if ovaries and cervix are removed along with uterus and if nerves going to the vagina are removed.

Sometimes, nerve pathways affecting sexual response can be cut during a hysterectomy, affecting your ability to enjoy vaginal stimulation.

What you must ask your doctor?
Ask the gynecologist whether cervix can be retained and if nerve sparing surgery will be done.
If you've been told that you need a hysterectomy for a gynecological problem not related to cancer, explore other options first, including retaining your cervix.

It is advised to have nerve-sparing type of hysterectomy, which aims to spare the genital nerves so that women still have some sensation.

Psychological effects
The physical effects of a hysterectomy can be modest in comparison to the possible psychological issues, warns Whipple.
Some women (knowingly or not) conceptualize the uterus—and the ability to carry a baby—as the essence of feminity and may become depressed after a hysterectomy. And feeling depressed and less feminine can lead to diminished sex drive and sexual activity, says Whipple.

On the other hand, many women feel relief with the knowledge that pregnancy is not possible and become much more interested in sex and more sexually active.

-The Merck Manuals - Vol 2, Issue 7
-Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., R.N.
is Professor Emerita at Rutgers University and author of
The Science of Orgasm
(Johns Hopkins University Press, 2006).


Dr. Thompson reports, "the first evidence, to our knowledge, of a strong association between erectile dysfunction and subsequent development of clinical cardiovascular events,". The researchers were doing Prostate Cancer Prevention Trial and they landed with the evidence that ED (failure of erection) is the beginning of heart disease.

A medicine Proscar (finasteride) was being evaluated for safety in the Prostate Cancer Prevention Trial, a prospective, randomized, blinded study. 9,500 men were randomly selected for placebo study over 7 years. The men, were 55years or above.

Total Men = 9,500
85% [8063] of these had no cardiovascular disease
3816 of these had already had some level of Erectile Dysfunction.
4347 remaining men had no ED and no Cardiovascular disease.
57% developed ED 5 years later and
65% developed ED 7 years later.
Because of concerns about the effect of the study drug on sexual function, the trial researchers tracked erectile dysfunction throughout the seven-year study. Men in the study were also evaluated every three months for cardiovascular disease, as part of the study's safety monitoring.

Similar finding
The Massachusetts Male Aging Study reported in 1994 that, in a group of
men ages 40 to 70, the probability of impotence was 52% and the rate
tripled between 40 and 70, they noted.

A person coming for the treatment of Erectile Dysfunction is more likely to have cardiovascular disease and preventive measures for the same need to started.

The Massachusetts Male Aging Study reported in 1994
JAMA. 2005;294:2996-3002. Thompson IM et al.

Sixty Minute Artist


Medical Science has been harping
I found very interesting revelation from an artist, who is my neighbor on blogspot.
Here you find "Benefits of Exercise" in a different aspect, from an artist's point of view. Do not miss this blog.

"Get Some Exercise."

I know it sounds strange, but many of the painters and artist I know need a bit of exercise to get the juices flowing. In fact, I think that painting and exercise share some similar traits. You know that feeling when you haven't exercised in a while and you are just not inspired to put on your shoes and go for a jog. You make every excuse not to do it, and usually go and eat something instead. This is very similar to the inertia of painting. You have to take that first step. If you exercising regularly at all, you will know that the just after a good run or trip to the gym is the time when you are most alert and ready to go. So, go for jog or to the gym, and right afterwards hit the studio. You will be surprised at the creative energy that will flow. Many artists simply go for a good walk in nature�that is often enough. If you haven't exercised in a while, try that. Go to the local nature park, take your camera, and see what you can discover. The key is to hit the studio right after you get back when the juices are still flowing. If you delay, the inspiration will be lost.

by Sixty Minute Artist: Jerry Lobo

If you continue reading the same post you reach a wonderful climax titled,

"Things Not To Do"

You can find the entire body at Jerry, I am keen to see your website getting dressed up in aesthetic beauty. Let your creative juices flow to make an art work, which I would be glad to post here.


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