ENJOYING SEX BY GIVING FALSE PROMISE OF MARRIAGE
Know the SIGNS to recognize such a BETRAYAL.
Unfortunately, betraying trust is more common than you may believe. Those girls who are ditched have done all things sexually for him to please him and retain him. They cannot complain to any one nor can they punish him.
1.
THE MOMENT YOU BEGIN TO TRUST THE BOY IS THE FIRST SIGNAL THAT NOW YOU CAN BE DITCHED.
2.
YOUR BEST FRIENDS WARN YOU THAT THE BOY DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD CHARACTER AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED.
3.
THE BOY IS UNWILLING TO STOP HIS SEXUAL ADVANCES UNTIL YOU MARRY OR ARE FORMALLY ENGAGED.
THERE ARE MANY BOYS WHO WILL RUTHLESSLY USE YOU, ABUSE YOU AND YOU WILL NOT EVEN HAVE A SHADE OF SUSPICION ABOUT HIM UNTIL THE END WHEN HE THROWS YOU.
The common excuse they give when they are about to ditch you is , "My parents have refused and _ _ _". They stop lifting the phone and they delete SMS.
Your trust in his words, your trust in your love being so powerful that it will change his mind, your readiness to sacrifice anything for him are your weak points.
Such PREMARITAL affairs or AFFAIRS OF TEENAGERS are widely prevalent.
Girls studying in College are snared by their BEST (BOY) FRIENDS.
The boys talk, act and behave convincingly and you start implicitly believing "MADE FOR EACH OTHER". The girl TRUSTS him with all her heart, at times risking ostracizing by society, not listening to parents who love her dearly and have been her well wishers for over 16 years. She braves the world. She does not listen to her closest friends who warn her and tell her that the boy is taking her for a ride and does not mean to marry her. She thinks they are jealous. She thinks her love will win him and change his mind. She thinks she is lucky to have got for a friend a rich boy who can do mind boggling things.
Only VERY FEW girls confirm that the boy wants to get married. Most often the lies of the boy are convincing.
How will I know true love?
If you trust some one before marriage be sure to allow sexual intimacy only to a limit and withhold going any further than kissing and touching until after marriage. With this you retain your dignity and are appreciated by the boy when he marries you. Love increases. If you believe that by doing so his love for you will decrease than you are MIS TAKEN.
If he really loves and wants to get married HE WILL WAIT.
MISTAKE
You think that he will not wait, you are afraid that you will lose him knowing that so many girls, prettier and better are willing and waiting to love him, than you are vulnerable and easy prey. May God save you. It hurts to know that some girls in ecstasy and with faith and trust in their own true love do whatever the boy asks her to do sexually, with the hope that she will win her. "I can give my life for you," is the kind of thinking that ruins you. It is used to black mail you emotionally and you give in to his sexual demands braving the ire of your (best well wishers) parents.
You identify with the movie's romantic acts without being aware of the difference between reel life and real life. In a world of illusion or madness you FALL in love.
The boy gives all types of logic with the firm intention to loot you. Young that you are you fall a prey and the matter is so shameful that you can neither tell any one nor take revenge. The bitterness it leaves in your heart and hopelessness of love and fear of betrayal are difficult to resolve.
The following story is
typical.
It is a report exactly as it was published in
TIMES NEWS NETWORK
Mumbai:
The Malad police on Saturday arrested small-time TV actor Jayprakash Sharma on rape charges. Officers said Sharma (40) had made false promises of marriage to a 24-year-old aspiring actress from Ahmedabad and shared an intimate relationship with her from July to November 2007.
Sharma used to ask the girl to visit his house at Chincholi Bunder, Malad, or take her out to hotels. Three months ago, Sharma tied the knot with some other woman, selected by his parents. The Ahmedabad girl then decided to approach the police with recordings of the conversations she had with the TV actor.
"After the victim lodged a complaint on Friday, we sent a team to Sharma's flat in Dheeraj Jamuna building, but he wasn't found. On Saturday, we hunted him down in Malad and took him into custody,'' a senior official said.
Sharma had first met the girl in Gujarat; she was attending acting classes in Ahmedabad at that time. The two became friendly and used to meet up whenever Sharma was in Gujarat. The girl finished her course and started getting bit roles. Sharma was also back in Mumbai.
"The two started seeing each other. Sharma promised that he would marry the girl and used to call her to Mumbai to stay with him, sometimes for 10-15 days at a stretch. A year ago, his parents fixed a match for him but Sharma lied to the girl that he was not interested it. The couple continued to go out. Then, in December 2007, Sharma married the girl selected by his parents. The complainant then realised that she had been cheated,'' an officer said.
The police registered a case of rape after the girl complained that Sharma had an intimate relationship with her and promised to marry her as well. Sharma will be produced in a holiday court on Sunday for remand.
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